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**This blog is a snippet from Focus on the Family’s post, “How We Finally Won The Battle Against Pornography”

The first time I heard someone talk seriously about pornography was at a college chapel service. In front of the entire student body, a friend confessed his addiction and shared that Jesus had “set him free.” I was engaged at the time and thought how glad I was that my future husband didn’t struggle with porn.

Nick, my fiance, came from a Christian family. He always led the two of us in prayer and devotions. We were preparing for a life of ministry together. He never pressured me physically. In fact, he waited months to even hold my hand or kiss me.

Not long after that chapel service, we went on a coffee date. Before we even got out of the car, Nick said, “I need to tell you something.”

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Nick Stumbo

Nick is the Executive Director for Pure Desire. He has been in ministry leadership for over two decades. He was in pastoral ministry at East Hills Alliance Church in Kelso, Washington, for 14 years. Nick has a Bachelor in Pastoral Studies from Crown College, an MDiv from Bethel Seminary, and is a certified Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional (PSAP) through the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP). He has authored two books, Setting Us Free and Safe: Creating a Culture of Grace in a Climate of Shame.

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  1. Holly

    Thank you so much for writing this article, Michelle! I came across the full post on Focus On The Family and had to find a way to contact you. Your story resonates with me so deeply as I also found out while we were engaged and have been on quite the roller coaster since we got married less than two years ago. We reached that turning point a few months ago–only after hitting an all time low where I was seriously contemplating suicide though–and it’s been a lot of hard work since then. I feel a lot like you did, that my husband is making great progress and me, not as much. Rebuilding trust is a steep incline but I’m thankful that God’s grace makes it possible. I would love to chat more with you personally about your experience.

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