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A Threadbare Marriage

by Shari Chinchen October 24, 2019 1 Comment

This threadbare marriage endures because it is rooted in God’s blessing and in a love that has developed because of all we have shared—for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health. I wrap myself in the coziness of this marriage and know there is nowhere else I would rather be, and no one else I would rather be doing life with.

The Silent Abuser

by Elisabeth Windsor October 17, 2019 1 Comment

With some kinds of abuse, victims may go years with only a vague feeling that something is wrong—a feeling that something is wrong with them. In light of National Domestic Violence Awareness Month, it’s important to raise awareness to the subtle signs of abuse. It’s also good to recognize that anyone can be a victim or perpetrator of abuse, regardless of gender.

The Sexually Anorexic Marriage

by Traci Wright October 10, 2019

In marriage, if we are not used to taking the temperature of the relationship and making ongoing adjustments, it is fairly easy to go years, if not decades, without healthy intimacy—sexual or otherwise.

Doing Group Outside The Box

by Jackie Chambers October 03, 2019 2 Comments

Another unique thing we do is a graduation ceremony—this is a big deal! Week after week, courageous men and women are doing the hard work for their healing. They deserve to be celebrated! They receive a diploma and take a few minutes to share their journey with the other groups. This gives other group members hope that they too can finish the journey strong and empowered.

Confessions Of A Sex Addiction Counselor

by Tyler Chinchen September 26, 2019 2 Comments

My early life story closely resembles the lives of so many others. People who carry into adulthood the burden and pain of their youth and their choices in life. As a clinician at Pure Desire I speak with these people. Every. Single. Day. People who are stuck in the painful trajectory of their family of origin and who, like the earlier version of me, attempt to cope and medicate the pain away with unhealthy and unwanted sexual behavior. Despite the negative consequences, they cannot stop the destructive behaviors.

My Best Decision

by Scott Spicer September 19, 2019

When I look at my own life, I am convinced that I need a coach. But I didn’t always think this way. In fact, I tried to do my best without a coach for a long time. I did have some instances of success along the way. However, I also had some disappointments, some failures, and some moments where I was outright stuck.

Isolating In Plain Sight

by Rich Moore September 12, 2019

Isolation is a powerful tool that leads us in the wrong direction. For the most part, when people isolate they tend to hide and spend time alone. However, there are those of us who isolate in plain sight.

Managing Unwanted Behaviors

by Debby Flanagan September 05, 2019 2 Comments

As a sober sex addict and alcoholic, and now as a trained addiction and trauma clinician, I have absorbed many methods, theories, and processes that contributed to my recovery. Books, articles, consultations, and experiences have reinforced my knowledge of the field of addiction recovery. Even with all this training and understanding, I still experienced a reaction that is directly tied to the wounds from my childhood.

Stop Preaching Purity

by Nick Stumbo August 29, 2019 3 Comments

Many churches are becoming proactive in addressing the topic of purity during their weekend services. We recognize a need for truth and the Word of God to shed light on the darkness people are encountering. But too often, this attempt at preaching purity—though rooted in good intentions—can leave people carrying home a greater burden of guilt and shame than when they walked in the door.

Vulnerability vs. TMI

by Ashley Jameson August 22, 2019 1 Comment

We don’t have to share everything to be authentic. Being vulnerable is about seeing a moment where you can offer part of your story in order to bring connection between you and the person you’re speaking with. Sharing life and inviting someone to do the tough parts together is such a gift.

Why You Should Go To The Pure Desire Men Conference

by Trevor Winsor August 15, 2019 1 Comment

If I’m being honest, I don’t love men’s conferences. Does this make me weird? If I’m being even more honest, it tends to be because most men’s conferences are all the same. They always have great outdoor activities that give us the opportunity to do crazy stuff (let’s be honest––dangerous) we wouldn’t do with our wives around. Then there is usually great food (which I have no problem with), shipped in by the droves. And it’s usually brought in by that one guy named Steve––we see you, Steve, and we appreciate you bro!

4 Signs Of Digitally Unhealthy Kids

by Heather Kolb August 08, 2019

If we are so integrated with technology throughout our daily lives, how do we know when it’s too much—when have we become too immersed in the world of technology? This is a question many parents ask and they often struggle to find the best answer.

A Threadbare Marriage

The Silent Abuser

The Sexually Anorexic Marriage

Doing Group Outside The Box

Confessions Of A Sex Addiction Counselor

My Best Decision

Isolating In Plain Sight

Managing Unwanted Behaviors

Stop Preaching Purity

Vulnerability vs. TMI

Why You Should Go To The Pure Desire Men Conference

4 Signs Of Digitally Unhealthy Kids

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