Motives Matter

When it comes to recovery, our motives play a huge role in either bringing us more life, or draining it away. Healing and recovery can be hard work, and so we must have a crystal clear focus on our “why.” If we lose track of this, recovery can quickly become just another humanistic self-help routine. But as we come to a deeper understanding of who we are in Christ and His heart for us, we gain the motivation we need to be ALL IN.

Learn how to incorporate a healthy view of God and faith into the recovery process. Escape from “trying harder,” performance-based living and rest instead in the all-encompassing Love of God!

Just as Christ revolutionized how we know God, we need to bring this revolutionary approach into recovery. Changed behavior is an outcome of relationship, not a prerequisite for it.

Nick Stumbo

When Failure Sets Us Free

Too many people go through recovery attempting to quarantine behavior rather than seeing their brokenness as a roadmap to reclaiming desire. Understanding it is not a barrier, but a bridge to knowing the heart of God.

Jay’s session will explore the neurobiology of shame, how to outgrow unwanted behaviors, and what it means to desire again.

The stories of your deepest shame are not a barrier, but a bridge to going ALL IN on the life you desire.

Jay Stringer

Embracing a Metamorphic Life

Faith and recovery require us to examine how we see the world. Because of this, deconstruction and reconstruction are an inherent part of the healing process.

Join Robert as he invites you into a healthy, organic, thought process that has historically been viewed as unhealthy or even taboo.

You will learn how faith and recovery are interwoven, that deconstruction is a healthy response to a new paradigm, and reconstruction is about our unique identity in the context of relationship.

Robert Vander Meer

Why God Cares About Your Sex Life

Most people have a difficult time combining the words “God” and “sex” in the same sentence. Yet, God created us as sexual people and cares deeply about our wounds, sexual shame, and sexual choices. Do you want to understand why?

Join Juli as she addresses the “why” behind God’s heart for sexual healing and redemption.

This session will help you identify your “sexual narrative” and will give a deeper understanding of the biblical narrative of sexuality and sexual wholeness.

Juli Slattery

Pursuing Sexual Integrity (Not Simply Purity)

There is a lot of backlash toward “purity culture” today. Perhaps a better way to understand a godly pursuit of sexuality is the concept of sexual integrity.

Integrity goes far deeper than our behaviors and gets to the heart of what matters most to us.

In this session, Juli will address aspects of sexual integrity including the link to identity, stewarding sexual desires, and addressing your wounds and shame.

Juli Slattery

ALL IN: When We Need Healing AND Recovery

Recovering from addiction and healing from betrayal is complex and sometimes overlapping.

Join Ashley as she shares her experience of navigating her husband’s betrayal while struggling with her own addictions. You will learn practical strategies and tools to help you engage in healing and recovery simultaneously.

Your betrayal is not less painful or important because you have your own struggles, too. You're worth going ALL IN for—you can experience freedom from betrayal and addiction.

Don’t allow fear and shame to keep you from living the life God has for you.

Ashley Jameson

We’re ALL IN: Executive Director’s Update and the Future of Pure Desire

As Pure Desire continues to grow and develop, we want to keep you informed about what's happening around the ministry.

Come and hear updates from our Executive Director, Nick Stumbo, about highlights from the past year, upcoming plans, and the future of the ministry. There will also be time for an open Q&A.

Learn how you can be personally involved—and get your church more involved—in moving the mission forward to help more men and women in the church and around the world.

Nick Stumbo

Staying ALL IN When Group Gets Tough

For group leaders and members alike, there can be a variety of challenges, difficult lessons, and unhealthy core beliefs that drive harmful group dynamics.

In this session, you’ll discover the core beliefs that drive unhealthy group dynamics and the practical ways to address them, transforming your group experience.

Learn how to cultivate trust—trusting God, group members, and the recovery process—while navigating difficult seasons or situations in group.

Matt Bye

Living An All In Marriage: Integrating Our Stories

Have you ever wondered what it would look like to take your individual story and integrate it into “our” story?

In this session, you’ll develop a personalized plan designed to support and foster a deeper sense of having an ALL IN marriage.

Tyler & Shari Chinchen

When Being ALL IN Makes You Want to Get Out: Sustaining Leadership When You Feel Burnt Out

What does it mean to be ALL IN? Today, so many church leaders are experiencing burn out. Could it be that we are operating on a faulty premise of what it means to be ALL IN? Life is difficult, challenging, and at times, overwhelming. But Jesus said, “His yoke is easy and his burden is light.”

If being ALL IN for the cause of Christ leads us to burn out, maybe we’re going about it the wrong way.

This session will present a paradigm shift in what it means to follow Jesus and be ALL IN. You will learn it’s okay to let go of things that aren’t working, how to embrace our humanity as Jesus did His, and find enjoyment in leading yourself and others well.

Bring your questions and join the conversation.

Rodney Wright

Staying ALL IN After Year One

How do we stay engaged and committed after the first year of recovery? It's easy to get sloppy or lazy after we've experienced some healing. So how do we maintain momentum once the crisis and difficulty dies down?

Recovery and healing has many chapters which require different approaches. This session will challenge you to stop focusing on avoiding behaviors and develop healthy habits you can do in place of your old unwanted behaviors.

When it comes to recovery and healing, you have to be ALL IN for the long haul.

Trevor Winsor

Managing Life's Transitions

Transitions in life are sometimes exciting, but most are difficult because they require risk and an adventure into the unknown. This is especially true for those who have chosen to embark on a healing journey through Pure Desire.

In this session, we will look at the problems and possibilities that occur in most life-changing experiences and how to best manage the transitions we all face. You will come away with “How Tos” in making the most of change as you navigate transitions.

Diane Roberts

Going ALL IN on My Recovery: Women Struggle, Too!

Although it was once thought as only a man’s issue, today it is well recognized that women also struggle with unwanted sexual behaviors. But in this arena, what makes women’s behaviors unique?

Join Heather and Anna as they discuss common characteristics among women who struggle, the factors that drive their unwanted behaviors, and practical solutions for recovery.

Understanding the multifaceted aspects of sexual brokenness and what this looks like for women who struggle is key to going ALL IN on recovery and experiencing healing.

Heather Kolb

Anna Philipsen

The Four Pillars of Sexual Love

The Bible tells us that marriage, including the sexual union between a husband and wife, reflects God’s love for His covenant people. This sounds spiritual but may not seem practically helpful.

Join Juli Slattery as she shares four specific elements of God’s love that paint the picture for what it looks like to honor God and each other in your sexual relationship.

Juli Slattery

Staying ALL IN With Your Adult Children

We want to be there for our kids into adulthood but it's not always easy. Whether our adult children are going through addiction and betrayal trauma or we are in the midst of it ourselves, we need to understand how to handle this relationship.

How do we support our adult children while not being overbearing? How do we disclose our addiction to our adult children and navigate through recovery and healing together? As family of origin issues begin to emerge, how do we look at these with an open mind?

Walking through these situations can be extremely difficult but can also create a tremendous break-through if done well. It's not too late to deepen your relationship with your adult children and address the threat addiction brought to your family.

Join Bill & Eileen as they talk through these very real and common challenges many of us face today.

Bill & Eileen Fagan