When should I seek counseling?
If you are struggling with unwanted sexual behavior: complete the free Sexual Addiction Screening Test (SAST) to help understand your level of struggle. It may be appropriate to seek counseling if your SAST score is 16 or above on core items 1-20. Counseling can also be beneficial if you continue to relapse over a period of time or if you have experienced severe childhood or adult abuse or trauma.
If you have experienced betrayal: counseling can provide you with a safe space to heal from the trauma of betrayal, establish healthy boundaries, and explore the depths of forgiveness.
If you are seeking to restore a broken relationship: counseling can help you and your spouse work together towards restoration by going through disclosure, learning about communication, and pursuing real, lasting intimacy.
Still not sure? Listen to the podcast 5 Reasons to Get Counseling with Pure Desire’s Clinical Director, Tyler Chinchen.
How does online video counseling work?
Pure Desire counseling sessions can be conducted via online video on Zoom. All you need is a device that connects to the internet (tablet, laptop, or computer) with a microphone and webcam. You can be anywhere in the world while you receive counseling from Pure Desire! Pure Desire Client Care is here to help you download the free application and connect with your clinician.
COVID specific: do you offer in-person counseling?
At this time, Pure Desire is not offering in-person counseling so that we can protect the health of our clients and clinicians.
Why should my spouse/significant other participate in counseling?
Pure Desire would strongly encourage couples to go through the counseling process together (if both spouses are willing). We have male/female clinician teams that work with couples so that both spouses can be supported in the process.
What do I do if my spouse/significant other is not willing to participate in counseling?
Pure Desire would encourage you to pursue individual counseling for yourself if your spouse or significant other is not willing to participate in counseling at this time. We offer individual counseling, whether you are the struggling spouse or the betrayed spouse. We can integrate your spouse into the counseling process at any time if they choose to participate.
How often do I schedule counseling sessions?
The schedule for counseling sessions will depend on the course of care that is recommended by your clinician after you complete the initial evaluation. Completing the assessments and meeting with a clinician will help to determine how often you should schedule sessions and how long those sessions will be.
Do you offer sessions in the evenings or on weekends?
The options for scheduling can vary depending on which clinician you are assigned to meet with for counseling. We have clinicians that are available throughout the week, both during the day and in the evenings, and some clinicians are also available on Saturdays.
Which clinician will I be meeting with?
Pure Desire currently has 14 clinicians on staff that offer individual counseling, with 6 male/female clinician teams that offer couples counseling. We understand that it is important to build a relationship of trust with your clinician to help you feel comfortable during your counseling sessions, so we take time to review your assessment results and consider which clinician or clinician team may be the best fit for you based on personality, experience, and expertise.
What credentials do Pure Desire Clinicians hold?
Each clinician team at Pure Desire has a Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist (CSAT) or Pastoral Sexual Addiction Professional (PSAP) certified through the International Institute of Trauma & Addiction Professionals (IITAP). This prepares our clinicians to work with clients that are struggling with a sexual addiction or healing from sexual betrayal. Pure Desire clinicians are also experienced pastors, equipped to provide biblically-based counseling and to work with struggling pastors and ministry leaders.
How much does counseling cost?
The cost for the initial evaluation includes assessments and initial session. The evaluation cost will depend on the program that you pursue, ranging from $382.50-$695.00. After you have completed the assessments and initial session, counseling sessions are billed based on the clinician’s hourly rate: $165.00 per hour for individual counseling or $250.00 per hour for couples counseling (meeting with a male/female clinician team). Cost of resources and groups are additional.
What type of payment plans do you offer?
The cost for the initial evaluation is required prior to starting the evaluation process. After you have completed the assessments and initial session, you can choose to pay per session for the counseling that is recommended for you or you can set up a monthly automatic payment. If you require further assistance, we may be able to provide options for extended payment plans. Contact Pure Desire Client Care for more information. We are only able to provide general information regarding payment plan options until you have completed the evaluation and confirmed the recommended course of care.
Will my insurance cover counseling?
Pure Desire does not work directly with insurance companies for billing. If you have questions about the type of receipt or statement that Pure Desire can provide, please contact Pure Desire Client Care.
Does Pure Desire keep my information confidential?
Pure Desire does not release client information without written permission. The few exceptions to confidentiality are mandated by State and Federal laws.
What help do you offer for pastors or ministry leaders?
The Pure Desire Leaders (PDL) program is a partnership program that supports churches, denominations, and ministries by offering care to their pastors and ministry leaders. If you are a pastor or ministry leader with a PDL partner, then a 25% discount on counseling is available to you. Contact your supervisor or office to get the discount code that can be applied at checkout. If your church or ministry is interested in becoming a PDL partner, you can find more information here.
What are the assessments that I will be completing as part of the evaluation?
- Sexual Dependency Inventory 4.0 (SDI): The SDI is a comprehensive questionnaire administered online and anonymously by a third-party provider. The SDI collects and organizes information on the unwanted sexual behavior including “typical patterns of consequences, evolution and timing of behavior and thought patterns.”
- Post-Traumatic Stress Index – Revised (PTSI-R): Scientific research suggests a direct correlation between an individual’s traumatic experience and the manifestation and presentation of addictive or compulsive coping behaviors. The PTSI-R is administered online and anonymously by a third-party provider. The PTSI-R provides a clear assessment of the client’s trauma reaction profile and identifies patterns that drive unhealthy responses when under stress, threat, or perceived threat.
- Taylor-Johnson Temperament Analysis (T-JTA): The T-JTA is administered online by a third-party provider. The T-JTA is a widely-used personality assessment instrument which measures eighteen dimensions of personality that are important components of personal adjustment and relationships.
- Inventory for Partner Attachment, Stress, & Trauma (IPAST): The IPAST combines a number of assessments to “examine the partner’s traumatic reactions, family of origin, resiliency, and attachment styles.” This equips the clinician to understand how trauma has affected their client so that they can create a personalized course of care.
How long does it take to complete the evaluation process?
The evaluation process is the first step in your counseling program, and it includes online assessments and an initial session. It helps your clinician create a personalized Recommended Course of Care to support you in your journey to hope and healing. The forms and assessments will generally take about 4-6 hours total, and these can be done in your own time. The evaluation session can be scheduled about 1-3 weeks after completing the forms and assessments (depending on the availability of your clinicians).
Why do I need to be part of a Pure Desire group while in counseling?
Pure Desire groups support your recovery and healing while you are in counseling. We see them as an important part of the healing process because connecting with others is essential to breaking isolation and healing shame.
Does Pure Desire use a trauma model or a co-dependency model when caring for the betrayed spouse?
A trauma informed approach to care is integrated within the Pure Desire (PD) clinical counseling program. No PD counseling client is labeled as a co-dependant (although one resource sometimes used will reference the term). To assure trauma informed care, all prospective PD clinical counseling clients are administered an intake assessment which includes the PTSI (Post Traumatic Stress Index) and may also include the IPAST (Inventory for Partner Anxiety, Stress, and Trauma).
If during the evaluation session the PD Clinician determines that the scope of trauma reactivity is severe and outside the clinician’s scope of competency and expertise, the prospective client will be referred to a more appropriate level of care. If an elevated level of trauma reactivity is determined to be within the scope of competency for the PD Clinician, either EMDR or Brainspotting will be recommended and integrated within the construct of the PD clinical counseling program.
This program through Pure Desire
has been the first source of help and information that has actually helped. Thank you for promoting an atmosphere of grace. This is very unique.Cheryl
The compassion and insights the clinical team offered
made it incredibly easy to open up and share. Their insights helped reveal the areas that kept me hindered in my relationship with my wife. I am so thankful for them and the materials utilized to help us in our healing. made it incredibly easy to open up and share. Their insights helped reveal the areas that kept me hindered in my relationship with my wife. I am so thankful for them and the materials utilized to help us in our healing.Scott
Life changing from start to finish!
So thankful that the Lord orchestrated the timing of our connection with the clinical team. Our marriage will forever be blessed by our time with them and our connection with Pure Desire.Melinda
The clinical team’s knowledge and experience
on the subject matter was outstanding. Their compassion and understanding guided me to begin to understand the brokenness in my life and how the healing process works.Leland
I’m thankful for Pure Desire,
the clinicians, and groups that this program has available. The program gave me hope when I had nowhere else to turn. I hope the organization can grow to give even more betrayed spouses hope for their marriage and future.Susan